Does Therapy Make Me Weak?

Today I want to discuss a topic that I believe often gets overlooked.  Therapy.  I currently see a therapist and have seen one at different points in my life for various reasons.  I won’t go into details about the reasons I am currently seeing a therapist, but I will say that it is for more than one reason and I have always found many benefits by discussing issues with an outsider who has no bias.  Often we think of people who need therapy as “broken” or “wounded,” but I don’t think I am either of those.  I believe people who seek outside help are often stronger than they get credit for.  Realizing your issue(s) is bigger than you is a huge step in personal development.  It shows that you are human and understand that you can’t fix everything (by yourself).  I want to share the different reasons I believe in therapy and how it helps me.

  1. My therapist helps me see things through a different light.  Therapy helps me to take a step back and realize that my view is very narrow.
  2. Talking issues through is a part of self-healing.  Acknowledging your mistakes and faults is part of the healing and growing process.
  3. You learn new things about yourself.  Some people don’t see the benefit of therapy because they think therapists just listen.  While they do listen, they often make suggestions of ways you could approach situations different or think about an issue in a new way.
  4. Sometimes you do answer your own questions.  By hearing your thoughts out loud, sometimes you are able to see how crazy/funny something sounds and realize you need to make a change.
  5. Therapy is a stress reliever.  I am an emotional person.  A little thing can make me sad/frustrated pretty quickly.  By talking things through with my therapist, I am able to get everything out without exploding on an individual who hurt or upset me.
  6. It is my me time.  Having a designated time to talk about my feelings and really think past situations through is very valuable for me.  I am the type of person to sweep things under the rug and try to move on quickly, but therapy forces me to go back to certain situations and think about how they could have been handled differently.  It has definitely taught me to address the problem head on rather than avoiding it.  
  7. Therapy has helped me realize that I am not the only one.  My therapist has helped me to realize that something I might think is a huge deal is really not that abnormal at all.  My therapist has helped me to realize that a lot of people go through the same struggles that I do.  It is nice to hear that you are not alone (or crazy).  
  8. There is almost always a fix.  Therapy has helped me realize that there are ways to fix certain behaviors and ways of dealing with situations.  You don’t have to change who you are to better yourself.  I am constantly striving to be a better version of myself and to have the opportunity to learn of ways to do this from a professional is very helpful.  

Therapy is not for everyone.  I totally get that.  But, I do think most people could benefit from it.  You do not have to have something terrible happen to feel the need to talk to someone.  Therapy can be beneficial in all stages of life.  In life, we all go through turning points/major changes such as figuring out a career, job searching, completing a degree, getting married, moving, having children, etc.  These can all be very positive moments in life, while being very overwhelming and unsettling at the same time.  I think it is important for people to understand that therapy does not make you weak.  In fact, I believe it makes you really strong.  Sometimes it is hard to tell a complete stranger everything about you, including your flaws.  But, the benefits certainly outweigh the costs.  If you are thinking about seeing a therapist for any reason (you may not have a reason at all), I encourage you to do it.  

As always, feel free to contact me if you have any questions about this topic and I will do my best to answer them!  Have a wonderful day!

Questions:

  1. Have you ever gone to therapy?
  2. What was the biggest life change you have encountered so far?
  3. What is your favorite way to spend “me” time with yourself? 

Weekend Recap 8.22.16… Rain, Boat, Family, Tennis and A New Favorite Meal

IMG_2450

Good morning!!!  Can’t believe it is already Monday, but unlike usual Monday mornings, I feel relaxed and ready to start the week off right.  This weekend was filled with fun, but also really relaxing, which is nice for a change.  I started this morning off on the right foot with a 6am Body Pump class followed by a big smoothie!! Definitely my favorite way to start the day.  

Let’s back up to Friday so I can show you what the weekend looked like around here!  Friday night, my husband and I had plans to try out a new restaurant, but unfortunately with the bad weather in Texas, his flight got diverted to OKC and he didn’t make it home in time for our date.  But that’s okay, we had a rainy night in catching up on the new show, The Night Of.  Are any of ya’ll watching this show?  It is getting goooood.

Saturday began with a dog walk and some coffee before a quick at-home work out.

IMG_2425

My mom is currently driving with my cousin from Ohio to Arizona to take him back to college for his Junior year.  Saturday they stopped at our house for dinner and a good night’s rest before continuing on the long drive.  Riley was SO excited to see my mom.  He sleeps in bed with her every time she visits and last night he went and sat by the guest room door just waiting for her thinking she was still there.  Oh, the sweetness! 

IMG_2450

Good luck to my cousin, Sean, in his junior year in college this year!  Such an exciting time in life!

IMG_2452

My sister and her boyfriend came over for dinner Saturday night so we started the night with some appetizers.  One dip is a store bought red pepper hummus and the other was a lentil dip I made.  

IMG_2444

We grilled salmon, corn on the cob, and roasted potatoes for a yummy dinner.  After dinner we spent time chatting and played a game of Catch Phrase, which is always very entertaining.  

After a long walk with the pups on Sunday morning, my husband and I headed out to the lake for a little boat time.  We cruised around, ate lunch and I pulled my husband on the wakeboard for a while before calling it a day.  

My sister and her boyfriend have been playing tennis lately and invited us to play Sunday evening.  My husband played tennis in high school  and still plays on a few leagues and I am the most uncoordinated person you will ever meat.  I definitely improved as the evening went on, but I still need a LOT of work.😉 It sure was fun to switch things up and try a new form of exercise though.  

Sunday around lunch time, I decided to throw a bunch of veggies (leftover roasted sweet potatoes, celery, carrots, onion, and broccoli) in a saute pan with some spices and top the mixture with avocado and two fried eggs.  It was SO good.  I always forget the simplicity of veggies topped with an egg, but this meal will definitely be in my current meal rotation for a while.  Yum!

I am off to breakfast with my husband to make up for our lack of a date night on Friday.  Have a great week, ya’ll!

Questions:

  1. What did you do this weekend?
  2. What meal is currently a favorite at your house?
  3. Do you play tennis?

Friday Fun

Happy Friday!! The weekend is here!!  I’m getting caught up on lots of stuff around the house today, which is always a good feeling!  Then my husband and I are having a date night at a new restaurant (he’s been out of town all week)!! 

I found this survey and thought it would be fun to do.  It is rather lengthy so here we go.

  1. Who is your hero? My grandma. 

IMG_6044.JPG

2.If you could live anywhere, where would it be? Anywhere in Europe.  But I’d settle for Nashville.😉

3. What is your biggest fear? Losing someone close to me. 

4. What is your favorite family vacation? My mom used to take us to Destin every year for spring break and I have the best memories from those days. 

5. What would you change about yourself if you could? I would want to be more patient. 

6. What really makes you angry? Rude people. 

7. What motivates you to work hard? My family. 

8. What is your favorite thing about your career? I get to help people make a positive change in their lives and see the look on their faces when they have accomplished their goals. 

9. What is your biggest complaint about your job? Health can be a very emotional thing so sometimes it is hard to set emotions aside. 

10. What is your proudest accomplishment? Graduating with my Masters in Health Promotion and Education. 

11. What is your favorite book to read? I don’t have a favorite, but I love mysteries. 

12. What makes you laugh the most? My doggies. 

photo 1(5).JPG

13. What was the last movie you went to? Bad Moms What did you think? It was good, but the previews made it look better than it was.

14. What did you want to be when you were small? A teacher or a lawyer.

15. What is your favorite game or sport to watch? I love watching hockey games.

16. What would you sing at Karaoke night? Any song by Shania Twain.

17. Which would you rather do: wash dishes, mow the lawn, clean the bathroom, or vacuum the house? Mow the lawn… this was actually my chore as I was growing up and I loved it.

18. If you could hire someone to help you, would it be with cleaning, cooking, or yard work? Definitely yard work.  I don’t mind cooking or cleaning, but yard work.. ehh. 

19. If you could only eat one meal for the rest of your life, what would it be? Well I bet you guys could guess this one.  Grilled salmon with veggies.

20. Have you ever had a nickname? What is it? Yes, I have a lot of them.  Franny, franky, franks, franky the snowbear, snowbear, snowby, tay, taytay, tayfran, the list goes on…

21. In the evening, would you rather play a game, visit a relative, watch a movie, or read? My husband and I have been playing cards after dinner and I really like that. 

22. Would you rather vacation in Hawaii or Alaska, and why? Hawaii.  I like beaches and warm weather.

23. Would you rather win the lottery or work at the perfect job? And why? Hmm probably win the lottery because then I wouldn’t have to work. ;) 

24. If money was no object, what would you do all day? lay by the pool, play with my doggies, and read a good book. 

25. What are your hobbies? exercising, reading, taking walks with my pups, traveling, and cooking. 

26. What is the best gift you have been given? my engagement ring from my husband.

IMG_4246

27. Aside from necessities, what one thing could you not go a day without? Chapstick.  My lips are always dry. 

28. List two pet peeves. Arrogant people and people who talk REALLY loud. :) 

29. Where do you see yourself in five years? Probably living in a new location with a kid or two. 

30. How many pairs of shoes do you own? I would say probably 30.  Shoes are definitely not my thing. 

31. What would you do if you won the lottery? I would donate a large chunk to charity and then I would travel with my husband. 

32. What form of public transportation do you prefer? (air, boat, train, bus, car, etc.) I used to love car rides, but in the past couple years I have enjoyed flying a lot more.  I think it’s because it has gotten so easy and we do it a lot. 

33.  If you could go back in time to change one thing, what would it be? My grandma leaving us too soon. 

34. If you could share a meal with any 4 individuals, living or dead, who would they be? Giada DeLaurentis, Michelle Obama, my grandma, and Oprah. 

35. How many pillows do you sleep with? Two. 

36.  What’s the tallest building you’ve been to the top in? I think the Empire State Building.

37. How often do you buy clothes? Probably 2 or 3 times a year.

38. What’s your favorite holiday? Christmas

39. What’s your favorite type of foreign food? Oh this is a hard one… probably Indian or Asian.

40.  Are you a clean or messy person? clean.

41. Who would you want to play you in a movie of your life? Jennifer Aniston

42.  How long does it take you to get ready in the morning? About 30 minutes… If I washed and dried my hair, it would take over an hour.  

43. What kitchen appliance do you use every day? My blender.

44. How old were you when you learned Santa wasn’t real? How did you find out?  Way too old.  We would go to midnight mass with my mom and when we got back the presents would be under our tree.  I didn’t find out until years later that it was our neighbors putting them there.  

45. What was your favorite subject in school? Math.

46.  Are you an introvert or an extrovert? I like to say I am an introverted extrovert.  I am very outgoing with people I know, but it takes me a little while to warm up to strangers. 

47. If you had a warning label, what would yours say? Be kind to everyone, you never know what someone is going through. 

48. What was your first job? Besides babysitting, I was a receptionist at a salon the summers during high school. 

49. Who is the most intelligent person you know? My daddy. 

 50.  Who knows you the best? My best friend, Rachael.

IMG_1731

And if you made it to this point, I’m proud of you!😉  Off to do some laundry, cleaning, exercise and walk the dogs.  Have a great weekend everyone!!

Questions:

  1. What are you up to this weekend?
  2. What are your pet peeves?
  3. Who knows you best? 

Things Making Me Happy This Week

IMG_2407

Happy Thursday, ya’ll!  I can’t believe tomorrow is already Friday!  Looking forward to a date night with my hubby and a little more family time on Saturday.  My dad and brother leave today and I am a little sad.  We had such a fun week full of activities and relaxation.  It was a blast!  

I am the type of person that definitely appreciates the small things in life.  I love a hand-written note, someone holding the door for me, a little compliment or even a “thank you.”  I am very detail-oriented and I always notice small acts of kindness.  Today I wanted to share 10 small things that have recently made me really happy.  

  1. Family time.  Family is the most important thing to me.  I have a really great support system around me and I am so lucky for that.  
  2. Reading.  This year I promised myself to make reading a bigger part of my life and I can say that I certainly have kept this promise to myself.  I think reading helps me see situations through different lenses, learn new words, and broaden my horizon.  Last night my brother read to me for his nightly reading.  He is the cutest. 

IMG_2408

3.The cooler temperatures in Dallas this week.  Yes, it has been super cloudy and rainy, but I am so thankful for the weather that has been in the high 70s to low 80s all week.  It has been really really nice. 

4. Sleep.  I have been really trying to prioritize my sleep lately and it is really making a difference.  I feel so much better during the day and notice I am a lot less cranky too. 

5. The unconditional love of a dog.  You guys already know I am obsessed with all dogs, but this one will always make my list.  I just love dogs because they forgive easily and love unconditionally no matter what.  They don’t dwell on anything and they aim to please at all times.  My dogs are by no means angels, but I can’t stay mad at them long.  :) 

6. Laughter.  Laughter is the best medicine.  Whether it is with friends, family, a good book or your favorite TV show, laughing should be part of every day.  Last night we played Apples to Apples and had a lot of laughs! :) 

7. Clean sheets.  There is no better feeling than getting into a freshly made bed with warm sheets! 

8. The ability to run.  I am so grateful that even with my back/neck issues I am still able to exercise daily.  When I am moody, my husband often asks if I have exercised today.  Even he knows how much I need it.  Exercise is much more important for my mental state than my physical state.  

9. Diet coke.  I am not a regular soda drinker and haven’t been for years, but every once in a while, I crave a cold diet coke.  I had one earlier this week and gosh was it good!

10.  Four weddings in the next couple months!  It is always nice to have something to look forward to.  I am really excited for our friends and family that are joining the married life and so excited that we get to witness it! 

That’s all I’ve got for today!! Have a great Thursday and I will see you tomorrow!

Questions:

  1. What is one small thing that is currently making you happy?
  2. Are you a soda drinker?
  3. Do you like to read?  What are you currently reading?

Visit From My Favorite Boys

IMG_2401

Good morning!! I hope your day is off to a good start!  This has been a really fun week so far with my dad and little brother in town so I’ll show you what we’ve been up to!  The next few weeks should be pretty uneventful so I am hoping to get back in the kitchen soon because I have a few recipes brewing in my head to share with you all!  

Monday night after dinner we all headed to the bowling alley for some fun!  None of us are very good, but we still had a blast trying!

Tuesday morning was pretty cloudy and rainy so we decided to go play Top Golf (it is covered).  If you have a Top golf near you, you must check it out!  It is always a blast! 

IMG_2372

Me, my brother and my sister! 

IMG_2374

After Top Golf, my dad and little brother played a round of mini golf before we headed home.  

We spent the afternoon relaxing a bit before getting ready for the Rangers game! We got a quick dinner at a nearby restaurant then had some fun on snapchat before the game began!  These snapchat filters just kill me! :) 

You can see a little more of our snapchat fun on my youtube page.  I posted two new videos this morning.  

I sure do love this kiddo!

IMG_2389

I guess because the game was on a Tuesday night, it was not crowded at all.  We had great seats and had a lot of foul balls near us too! 

Then we all decided we needed matching Rangers hats!  Love them! 

IMG_2401

Thanks daddy for such a fun night! 

IMG_2403

We are just hanging around this morning, but are hoping to go to the Escape Room today followed by some pool time!! Have a great day!! 

Questions:

  1. Are you a baseball fan?
  2. Favorite sport to watch?
  3. Favorite food to get at a sporting event? Mine is definitely popcorn, kettle corn, or cinnamon roasted almonds! yum!

Weekend Recap 8.16.16 … Girls weekend with wayyyy too many pups!

IMG_2338

Hi guys!  How was your weekend?  yesterday was a busy one for me so I am just now getting around to recapping the weekend!  My husband was out of town for a bachelor party and my mom came to town for the long weekend.  We didn’t have too many plans, but as always, ended up running around all weekend long.:) Yesterday my dad and little brother got to town to visit for a couple days so I will keep this short and sweet as we are off to the Texas Rangers game tonight (praying for no more rain)!! 

So I have told you guys before that I dogsit on Rover.com and I am still doing that occassionally.  We have been traveling so much that I have been trying to dog sit as much as I can when we are in town and I may or may not have a little problem with saying no.  I tend to overcommit and this past weekend showed that I really need to stop that.  We had 4 extra dogs (plus our two and my sister’s dog was over too) for about 4 days.  It was total chaos.  One of those dogs happened to be a new little puppy so that was fun. ;) 

We had some pool time, lots of walks with the pups, and more puzzling!  We finished two 1000 piece puzzles in a few days… 

IMG_2345

Saturday afternoon we went to get our nails done!  This is a fun treat when my momma comes in town! 

Saturday night, we tried a new-to-us restaurant called Paul Martin’s.  It was soo soo soo good!  We started with the calamari and spinach dip and I got the warm quinoa salad with grilled salmon on top.  My leftovers were especially good the next day! 

My sister, mom, and I after dinner.  

IMG_2338

Sunday morning we had a little brunch at my house before taking my mom to the airport.  My sister and her boyfriend supplied the doughnuts…

IMG_2344

The rest of Sunday was spent running, grocery shopping, cleaning and washing sheets for our next guests to arrive!  I hope you all have a fabulous week and I’ll be back soon!  

Questions:

  1. Do you have visitors often?
  2. What was the highlight of your weekend?
  3. Do you usually order an appetizer when you dine out?

 

Friday Favorites 8.12.16

IMG_2320

Happy Friday!!! Yay!! Is anyone else so excited that Friday is finally here?  It sure has been a long week for me, but my momma is in town so it has been fun too!  She got in on Wednesday when my husband left for a Bachelor trip with his friends so it’s going to be a girls weekend! 

Today I wanted to share my current favorites with you all! 

Favorite Food Obsession  – Seafood

I usually eat fish two or three times a week, but lately I have been craving seafood daily and have fulfilled my craving more than a couple times this week!

Last night my mom and I had zucchini pasta with sauteed mushrooms, onions and garlic topped with her homemade cashew pesto and shrimp!  I’m having the leftovers for lunch! 

IMG_2320

Every time we grill salmon, I make a lot extra for a couple more meals so a lot of lunches this week have looked like this!  Different types of salads topped with grilled salmon! 

IMG_2259

Favorite Snack – Greek Yogurt 

I go through phases with loving greek yogurt then not really liking it at all.  Currently, I am in a LOVE stage with greek yogurt and have been enjoying it at least once a day with nuts, fresh fruit and sometimes I top it with a little nut butter.  I love that this snack keeps me full for hours.  

IMG_1445

Favorite Activities – Dog Walks, Puzzles and Movies

Even though it is super hot in Dallas right now, I have been trying to get in one decent walk with my dogs every day to tire them out and get out of the house for a bit.  We all always feel better after moving for a bit! 

IMG_2264

My sister, mom, and I love to do puzzles so when they brought two over to my house Wednesday I was really excited.  We finished one last night then immediately pulled out the second one… we have quite an obsession. 

Yesterday my sister, mom, and I went to go see Bad Moms.  It wasn’t quite as good as I was expecting it to be, but there were a lot of really funny parts.  The two tubs of popcorn we ate were very good though! ;)  

Favorite Inspirational Quote 

I saw this on Instagram the other day and it just really hit me.  There are plenty times in our lives when we go through tough times and have to make hard decisions, but it is important to just take it one day at a time.  Sometimes we feel like we need to do it all.  But we don’t.  We can’t be everything to everyone and it is important to be okay with that.  

IMG_2314

Favorite Type of Exercise – Interval Sprints on the Treadmill

I know most people hate the treadmill, but I love it.  I am such a baby when it comes to running in the cold or the heat and I usually do my running around 4 or 5am so it is also dark outside.  I love putting on a good show with my ipad and zoning out.  I have been walking at 4.0 for 1 minutes then sprinting at 8.5 for one minute then going back to 4.0 for one minute then sprinting at 8.6 for a minute, etc.  I just increase the sprint speed by .1 each time.  It leaves me so sweaty and feeling very accomplished.  

Favorite Thing I Laughed About This Week 

If you follow me on Instagram (tefrancy), you may have seen me post this picture.  I wear a mouthguard/retainer at night to prevent grinding my teeth and it always stays in place.  On this particular night, the mouthguard fell out of my mouth while I was sleeping and I woke up to hear my dog, Riley, chewing on it about 2 inches from my face.  Although I was a little bummed, I just had to laugh.  This pup cracks me up.  Although I know I won’t be laughing when I have to pay 3.5 times the normal amount  to replace it because insurance won’t cover me to get another one so soon.  Ah, what can ya do?   (Funny story: When I got the mouthguard a couple months ago, the dentist stressed the importance of keeping it away from my dogs and I remember saying, “My dogs don’t chew anything (they NEVER have) so I don’t have to worry about that…” Boy was I wrong!!) :) 

IMG_2162

Favorite Thing I Love About Being Home – My morning smoothie! 

Although I absolutely love traveling, it has been so nice to be home and back into my normal routine.  I love starting my day with a workout followed by a big, filling smoothie.  This morning my smoothie had banana, peanut butter, spinach, flaxseed, ice, vanilla protein powder and unsweetened vanilla almond milk.  It was so creamy and refreshing! 

IMG_2324

Favorite Instagram Inspiration – Ali Fedotowsky 

I watched Ali on the Bachelorette and E! News and I love following her blog and Instagram.  She has such great style and her new little baby is precious.  I just about died when I saw her nursery and the beautiful wall covered in pink flowers.  #interiordesigngoals

Have a great weekend everyone! 

Questions:

  1. Do you have any fun plans for the weekend?
  2. Who is your favorite person to follow on Instagram?
  3. What is your current favorite food obsession?